How I Wonder Where You Are

Every adopted child experiences a unique type of grief related to the traumatic birth mother separation. Disenfranchised grief, also called hidden grief, is minimized by society and not openly acknowledged. Even when children are adopted into a loving environment, there is still pain about the family that is unknown. Where did I come from? Who do I look like? Birthdays and school assignments related to culture or a family tree can be triggering. Adoptees test boundaries, struggling to discover their own identity while fearing disapproval and abandonment by the adoptive family.

A unique book about adoption, How I Wonder Where You Are is told from the point of view of the child. This book is appropriate for adopted and foster children of all ages to explore the hidden or disenfranchised grief that happens when wondering about their personal backstory.

Book features: A letter to parents that includes the top five reminders for every adoptive, foster or blended family with a focus on disenfranchised griefColorful realistic illustrations that will help open the parent/child discussion on a wide range of behaviors, emotions, and feelings that are part of the adoption or foster-parenting experience.A wonderful book for story time, extended family or sibling reading time, reading aloud or quiet reflection.Links to free gifts and adoption resources including helpful books, websites, coloring pages, recipes, and more.The perfect gift for a child or loved one on Christmas, birthdays, or other family celebrations.

If you are the parent of an adopted or foster child, or if your child has a friend who was adopted, you will want to share this book and start the conversation.