She Doesn't Hate You, You Just Don't Matter

She Doesn't Hate You, You Just Don't Matter: The New Father's Guide to Surviving the First Six Months After Childbirth

No one tells you what's really about to happen when your baby arrives. Not the books. Not the blogs. Not the dudes at work who give you a pat on the back and say, "Good luck, man."

This book does.

Written by a real dad who stumbled, struggled, and survived those chaotic, emotional, and exhausting first six months, She Doesn't Hate You, You Just Don't Matter is a raw, relatable guide for new fathers navigating the hardest transition of their lives-becoming a parent.

This isn't your average "new dad" handbook. There are no diagrams for swaddling. No checklists for diaper bags. No generic advice from someone who hasn't actually done the thing. This is real talk.

From the emotional toll to the invisible fights, the mental fog to the relationship strain, this book lays it all out-from a dad who lived it.

You'll find chapters that cover: The myth of the "natural father" and why it's okay if you don't feel instantly connectedWhy your partner seems distant and irritable (and why it's not about you... mostly)What keeping score does to your marriage-and how to stop doing itThe surprising reasons men cheat after having a baby (and how to protect yourself from becoming that guy)How to handle fights, feel like less of a failure, and communicate without making things worseSimple, practical habits that strengthen your relationship in the middle of the chaosThe truth about bonding, burnout, isolation, and learning to forgive yourself

This book is for dads who: Feel like they're doing everything wrongAren't sure how to support their partner without losing themselvesMiss their old life but feel guilty for even thinking thatAre tired, confused, and just want to know they're not alone

You don't have to be perfect. You just have to show up.

With a mix of real stories, reflection questions, and practical tips, this guide gives you the clarity and confidence you need to keep showing up as a partner and father-even when it's hard, messy, or feels completely overwhelming.

Fatherhood isn't something you master. It's something you grow into-

one day,

one mistake,

and one breakthrough at a time.

Whether you're weeks away from becoming a dad or knee-deep in sleep deprivation and self-doubt, She Doesn't Hate You, You Just Don't Matter will help you understand what's happening-and remind you that you're not broken.

You're just in the fog.

And it does get better.